twitter rant

@kimgoodwin I'm not at all confidant that my tweet will be read, or much less, honestly replied to; but, I just read your article here http://www.bbc.com/capital/story/20180727-mansplaining-explained-in-one-chart and have some concerns about what it leaves out. For starters, I have autism and do not always pick up social queues


Secondly, I love explaining things to people. All things. At all times. People say "oh, that mall there must be convenient" and I say "yes! Did you know they re-did the entire inside so you can no longer walk from end to end!" It's part of who I am. I'm excited to explain things.


Yes, I've had a few people accuse me of being arrogant or condescending. A lot of people have said I'm pedantic. I accept these things about myself, but also accept some people and I simply have incompatible personalities.


My concern is thus that by talking to a woman the same way I talk to a man, I became a "sexist mansplainer". I'm not saying women should 'take it like a man would', they can call me a condescending arrogant pedant; but a sexist??


It has quite literally made me withdraw from social sociations at an increasingly often rate. Especially after I read an article like yours. It says to me "if you happen to be talking to a woman, you are a sexist"


It is quite possible my autism means I'm missing something; and, a lot of what I read deals with business conversations, while I am on disability and not currently employed. Regardless, all this does it make me feel bad about myself as a person for loving explaining things.


Right now I'm listening to a podcast that can be best described as "a man explains a part of history for 45 mins". I just finished watching a lets play video that's very heavy on explanations. I love explanations. I live explanations. Explaining is one of the few things I do well


In sum. My reaction has simply been to withdraw from social interaction. I'm not certain that this is the intent of the people who are pushing the term intended, and I'm not sure how else to react to this. Especially online if I don't know if I'm talking to a man or a woman.


Instead of having personality flaws like being a condescending arrogant pedant, I am now a sexist. I am a "bad person". I feel bad for being a bad person. I cut back on the little social interaction I do get, and simply feel alone all the time.


And. That's it I guess. There isn't much you can do I don't think. I'm sorry for directing all of this at you as well, as, this all has been building inside me for quite some time now. I really don't have much more I feel I can say.